It all starts innocently enough. A woman walks in with the cutest baby ever. She tells you she’s ordering a cake for the baby’s first birthday. You start asking what she wants. And she tells you.
I used to think that wedding cakes were easier. These momzillas don’t even realize they have lost their mind. They obsess over inconsequential details on a cake the child WILL NEVER REMEMBER.
And that’s when you get it. Her mother probably picked the wedding cake that SHE never got to have, so this is the first time the mom gets to pick everything. Her first foray into adulthood in the cake world. So this party will be an all out production.
Momzillas will change the order a ridiculous number of times. They will bring in color swatches, samples of designs and their own personal sketches. She will burst into tears at the register if it does not meet the image in her head. My friend Pat Jacoby got a true Momzilla one day. The mother drew diagrams to scale. She had sketches of every element of the cake with precise inch by inch measurements for the entire diameter of the cake and what was to appear where.
Now is when I should tell you that all of that fuss was for the SMASH CAKE!! Holy crap!
I wish I knew what was really behind the insanity. I never got to have a child (medical complications), so I don’t know if pregnancy hormones still rule your life a year after you gave birth. I get that it is the “only first birthday party” the baby will have, but let’s be honest. That party is for the grown ups.
When I worked with the momzillas, I made a point of telling them they were the best moms ever and that their child was so lucky. And that always calmed them. Maybe they are just nervous new moms. Maybe they are afraid they aren’t doing a good enough job. Remember that there is likely a little insecurity under all that madness and you can help them relax and have a lovely party.
I wish I had an easy answer for how to deal with momzillas, but I honestly don’t. I can only tell you to prepare for the worst, hope for the best, and to know that it happens to all of us!